My New York / Mi México
“When faced with the choice of two evils, I always pick the one I never tried before.”–Mae West
I’m a romantic at heart. Figuratively munching madeleines before I even heard of Proust, I’ve looked to the past for inspiration. A native New Yorker, I spent my early years in Greenwich Village, then still a mythical place inhabited by Bohemians and Italian immigrants. Later we moved to the Upper West Side, the world of Zabar’s, the Thalia cinema and suffering Jewish intellectuals like my father. My twenties were spent in Brooklyn. I then made the big leap over psychological and physical borders to another world, Mexico, where I’m now a citizen. I’m here to stay.
Fragments of ‘my’ New York, of the ‘good old days’, float around my memory like specks of dust in a city sunbeam. Many of those memories are culinary: a 25-cent slice of pizza burning the roof of my mouth; a crusty, smoky pretzel, or sweet, woodsy coal-roasted chestnuts. There’s a Jewish deli in my mind where I fondly recall the sweet and acrid smell of pickles, the aroma of smoked fish, sliced pastrami waiting to be piled onto corn-rye bread, cole slaw and potato salad heaped on the plate, while chickens endlessly twirl on their rotisserie in the window luring hungry customers in with their crackling, charred skin.
I explored the broken down river docks that looked to a mysterious far away land: New Jersey. Then, cold and exhausted, my friend Duke and I would run over to the Caffe Cino on Cornelia Street for a free hot chocolate (if our waitress friend was on that day). We passed by furry animals hanging in Ottomanelli’s butcher shop window, sacrificial offerings for some Italian mamma’s Sunday dinner. I ate spaghetti and meatballs in an antique trattoria served by an old, black-clad Sicilian woman, while comfortably seated in a worn leather booth.
‘My’ New York was a black and white city; it looked like the foreign movies that made the rounds of the 8th St. Playhouse. Color was added as an afterthought in little dabs like the dots of red Corot used to bring his landscapes to life. Later my New York started to change. Bohemians gave way to hippies, then to politically minded progressives. They began to leave, victims of the Darwinian natural selection known as the real estate market. They moved to the country or to San Francisco. The Italians grew up and headed to the suburbs in New Jersey. The old Jews died, or ‘went down’, to Florida. And I moved to Mexico.
My arty parents had lived and traveled around Mexico during their exploratory early years. “In those days we KNEW you had to go to Mexico,” my mother had said, explaining their fascination with the cultural renaissance going on south of the border. They bought a surplus army jeep and drove to Mexico City in 1949, intending to stay. But ‘their’ New York called them back, as it did later when, seeking to escape oppressive McCarthyism, they went to Europe ‘to live forever’. My parents passed their love of all things Mexican on to me. One of the earliest songs I learned was La Llorona, that mournful hymn of regret. We danced the Mexican Hat Dance in second grade, at PS 41. The aroma of roasting tortillas was familiar to me from regular visits to Casa Moneo on 14th street.
It was in 1973, when I landed in Mérida, that I became a mexo-phile. I think it was my first taste of the fragrant sopa de lima that did it. A piece of Mexico attached itself to my soul like an orchid to a tree trunk.
Returning to Mexico City in 1986, I was lured by the sordid, thrilling cauldron of mysterious activity. The past lingered over a decrepit, crumbling centro histórico, which had been brought to its knees by the recent earthquake. The centro intrigued me: I observed dusty alleys and hallways into which scurried enigmatic characters who disappeared into their anachronistic places of business. Photographers, hidden under a cloth, with a huge camera like those in silent movies, took oval sepia portraits. Quack doctors cured things you didn’t know existed. Stores offered statues of the Virgin, artificial limbs, and electric appliances whose designs hadn’t been updated in decades. Nightclubs featured old-fashioned cabaret performers, acts with names like Yolanda y Su Perla Negra.
Food decidedly caught my attention. Alluring aromas emanated from ancient taquerías, whose aquamarine walls were blackened by decades of greasy smoke. Bow-tie clad waiters served now extinct bottled beverages and midnight breakfasts at the timeworn Café Cinco de Mayo. Old-timers imbibed at century-old pulquerías and cantinas, downing the free botanas and reminiscing about better times.
I boldly entered these places as if I belonged, like Alice in some low-rent Latin/urban wonderland. I embraced this world of the living past with open arms, exploring, using only a guidebook filled with decades-old tourist clichés. The imminent danger of a midnight stroll up the busy Eje Central, remnants of its show business past still evident, never occurred to me. I thought the pimps and whores lurking in doorways were somehow my friends and would protect me. Fortunately nothing bad ever happened. I entered a romantic and imaginary world of the past, now part of my mythical self. I decided to stay.
Nowadays I visit New York to see friends and family, shop for clothes, take in a Vermeer at the Met, eat dim sum in Chinatown and Thai food in Queens (a borough I’d only been to by mistake when I lived in New York). I go to the Katz's for a pastrami sandwich, and it still tastes like it’s supposed to. A guy on 8th street and Broadway still toasts his pretzels the old way. The subway is as loud and mean as always and a few ancient “no spitting,” signs remain in place in the Times Square station. But much has changed. I’m not bitter about the differences that old-timers gripe about, the ‘young people who haven’t a clue’, the remodeled MOMA, the exorbitant rents. I got over that.
New York is in full technicolor now, digitalized and user friendly. It no longer knows me, and I don’t know it. Its strangely unfamiliar streets unroll before me like an oriental carpet whose pattern I don’t recognize. My New York is frozen in time like an Edward Hopper painting, a stilllife on the counter of some long gone Madison Avenue coffee shop: my mother’s half empty, lipstick-kissed coffee cup, a lonely cheesecake awaiting a customer under its glass dome nearby. My New York has become somebody else’s New York.
Mi México es ahora, actual. Tortilla and chilied cooking smells have become the norm for me. I know where to get off the bus by spying banal landmarks from the corner of my eye like other Chilangos do. The past no longer dominates reality. I still go to the centro. I even have lunch at a little old fonda, one of those stopped-in-time, el-México-que-se-nos-fue sort of places. I continue to explore the back streets of the Merced and Tepito. And it’s still magical.
I now see that ‘my New York’ never really existed. Nor did mi México. They were and they are in my mind. I belong to neither and to both. There’s no place like home…
A note to my readers: for those who read Spanish, I, along with essayist David Lida, am featured in a cover spread in Mexico's El Universal, Menú section this week. Click here to see it!
Text and Photos © 2009 Nicholas Gilman - all rights reserved
Anado Mclauchlin September 7, 2009 You must have been one of those long haired little kids in Washington Square that I used to marvel at from the lofty age of 23...I remember being jealous and feeling out of kilter because I grew up under an Oklahoma Sky...but that was then and tonight I have absolutely enjoyed reading this entry...good work, Nic
Dan Shaw September 7, 2009 Nick--I think this is the beginning of a book-length memoir. I want to read all about what was and is and how you made the journey. It's a beautiful piece.
Gaj September 7, 2009 Enchanting and captivating. Great intro for a memorable memoir.
Anonymous September 8, 2009 You have made the tastes of NY so vivid! Am returning after two months in San Miguel de Allende and have been dreaming of the variety of ethnic foods in the Big apple. This is a book I would LOVE to read for all my memories of NY: the Village...esp. Cornelia St. where I had lived. Looking forward to reading more!
Tere Palm September 8, 2009 So your national anthem is: "No soy de aquí ni soy de allá, G Em no tengo edad ni porvenir B7 Em y ser feliz es mi color e identidad." Sung by Facundo Cabral or Alberto Cortés
Sarur September 8, 2009 I am waiting for the next entry . . . I love your comments about food, but this piece is a literary jewel
Anonymous September 9, 2009 A universal and amazing post. Captivating because it deals with two cities I know and love but yet can't help see how it mean anywhere we remember fondly. My wife reminisces of the old Italians in East Boston that have almost all moved away to give way for new mostly Latin American immigrants. Certainly my diverse neighborhood in L.A. has given way to mostly Asian immigrants. There is nothing wrong with this change – it’s part of the American fabric. You give a global perspective. Thanks again.
AOcreek September 9, 2009 "Color was added as an afterthought, in little dabs of paint like the dots of red Corot used to bring his landscapes to life..." Nick - Really, you've created another great painting, with words this time.
Paul Roberts September 9, 2009 As others have commented, a very eloquent and evocative piece of writing. Interesting the resonances and connection you, like David Lida, make between New York and Mexico City
Nicholas Gilman September 16, 2009 I thanks all commentators from the bottom of my heart. More to come.
Hugo September 23, 2009 Dearest Nick, how enchanting that you perceive your life there and here with such delicate observation of "the details that matter" and that you love them all. Like you never going to queens when you lived there, I hate many things of my city but have started to accept them, and mainly through foreign eyes. soy malinchista, qué le voy a hacer. many hugs and kisses. hugo
Mark Olsen September 25, 2009 OMG-- "Casa Moneo" on 14th off 7th. I thought I was the last soul to carry the memory of that place in my heart. The world is now a slightly less lonely place. Lovely essay.
Nick Wheeler September 29, 2009 Wow, having stayed here in NYC mostly since birth, I have seen Manhattan slowly change from a place of diversity to the point where a mayor says "Manhattan is not for poor people." So yeah some of us who've stayed are bitter at the large scale vanishing city bits, like historical amnesia. Thank you for bringing back the chestnuts. I suddenly remember, the Optimos.
Sheridan April 7, 2010 Beautifully written!
Nate @ House of Annie September 20, 2010 Hi Nick! You got my vote! Hope to see you again in Kuching. Cheers and aloha.
Marija September 21, 2010 Fantastic post! Good luck!
Asha @ FSKSeptember 21, 2010 Beautiful piece!! I was introduced to you through the FoodBuzz contest.. but as a literary hog, I just adore this piece of writing.. poignant!
Duchess September 21, 2010 How beautifully and expertly written, thank you!
@lickmyspoon September 23, 2010 what an epic story! thank you for sharing :) can't wait to see what are going to cook up. you got my vote!
Nicholas Gilman September 23, 2010 Thanks and muchas gracias again to all who have posted these lovely, heartfelt comments.
Jen Cheung September 23, 2010 hey ya! you have a lovely blog here. Stumble upon your blog through foodbuzz. :) I voted for your blog. hope that helps. Good Lucky !!!! feel free to drop by!! have a lovely weekend jen @ www.passion4food.ca